I have a vagina and I masturbate.
Because it's okay to do it, but to say it, that's a whole different story.
We like to know that women (or people with vaginas) touch themselves on the d-l. There's something exciting about that. However, solo masturbation is not primarily intended to feed the erotic imagination of others. If it did, no woman would actually masturbate, but all would say they do. Rather, we observe the opposite situation: let's masturbate without making too much noise. Yet, at the dawn of 2021, can we let women enjoy the pleasure of cumming as loud as they want!
I have a vagina and I masturbate. I invite you to read that sentence out loud again. Out of 10, how satisfying is it to release the tensions of secrecy? After all, kindness is an honorable act!
I have a vagina and I don't masturbate.. And do you know what? You're no less sexy or less attractive or less desirable because you don't touch yourself between episodes of Grey's Anatomy.
Self-stimulation is a personal choice. Whether it's to relax, to relieve boredom, to discover and love your body, or to learn about the sensations that we like and that help us reach orgasm, it's a moment of meeting with yourself. Whatever the reasons why you masturbate, how do you do it? Here are some various means to satisfy diversity!
Keep your pleasure at arm's length (fingertips would be more appropriate). Thumb, forefinger, middle finger, whatever your choice, you know how to use finesse. Whether you prefer stimulation of the clitoral glans or vaginal penetration, don't ignore the other erogenous zones of your body that may surprise you! And why not vary the movements for maximum exploration!
Sex toys to perform vibrations and sensations that hands cannot reproduce. There are sex toys that are more and more revolutionary! Remember that a toy can stimulate different areas that you don't think about when you're in action. Nipples, body of the clitoris, G spot, anus...there is no wrong choice! Shy? Be aware that many stores offer discreet delivery (a-hem, a-hem, like us). Then, there are technologies invented decades ago that do a job that's still as relevant and refreshing (if you know, you know).
A toy and a finger alternately, versatility is a nice quality. This way you can explore the various sensations that can lead you to sexual hurray. Why not try both at the same time?
As soon as said, as soon as done. Why don't you take the time to settle down and connect with your body. Masturbation being taboo, we get rid of it as quickly as possible. Dim the lights, put on some music, explore your body outside of genitalia, etc. When having sex with a partner, we try to make the pleasure last as long as possible. Why not do the same for solitary pleasure?
These examples are only a few of the possible ways to masturbate. While it can be tempting to self-stimulate in the same way when you finally find a winning formula, masturbating in a different way can allow you to discover a range of pleasures and get out of your masturbatory routine. Whether it is the spot, the position, the pressure, the speed, the movements or the stimulated areas, there is no shame in letting yourself be tempted by this guiltless pleasure!
Text by Sabrina Leblanc from @someone x someday