How to detox from your Ex
A breakup is rarely experienced as a cozy walk in the park. Even if that break-up may be what you wanted, the feeling of having his name tattooed on your chest is not the most pleasant and unfortunately, it doesn't come off with a good cold shower. So how do you ever make it back from your ex? Although there's no miracle cure, here are a few tips to make you feel better.
Me, myself and I
Me as a priority is the expression to keep in mind, because we forget ourselves too often. Taking care of oneself is essential in order to feel good in one's heart, head and body. So let's go! It's time to get to know yourself, to do things you love, to discover new things.
The people around you
Don't hesitate to turn to your real friends, the ones you can count on. You're in a fragile situation that makes you vulnerable. Although you may feel weak, sharing this vulnerability with people you trust can help you take a load off your shoulders. You don't have to pretend that everything is fine, that you've forgotten about it overnight.
Instagram, love / hate
This is very important, so listen closely. Instagram, a love and hate relationship. I know it feels like you can't help yourself. Landing on his social media profile is as easy as 1-2-3. Two or three clicks and you know where he is, what he's doing, and especially with whom. You need to focus on what's good for you and that means stopping to stalk him. If it's too hard, BLOCK HIM or find ways to get away from your cell phone. How long has it been since you turned off your phone? How long has it been since you took a walk and left it on the kitchen counter? Did you ever take a break from the app by deleting it from your phone? We know, it's hard.
The right to feel it all
You may go through several emotional ranges, remember, anger is not a more negative emotion than grief. Denial is as valid an emotion as acceptance. So there's no shame in going through an emotional storm through these different stages.
What I want to tell you is to accept that it will take time, but above all that no article like this should pretend to know what you need and how long it will take you to move on. Everyone has different needs and the key is to listen to them. If you are having trouble understanding yourself, identifying your needs, getting your head above water during this ordeal, don't hesitate to consult a professional.
Blog article by Sabrina Leblanc, registered sex therapist